So guys, I’m going to try and get some life back into this blog. It’s been a while since I posted something extensive. I have some ideas, but since I’ve always seen this as much as your blog as it is mine, I’d love your input on it.
So, what direction (insert 1D joke) would you like this blog to go?
Are you planning on surprising your Valentine?
You could try and giving him a massage or something like that. Or you have to think of taking it to another level, if you want to give him more than now.
It’s hard for me to give you pointers for this, because I’ve never had a cuddle buddy or can’t imagine ever having one. (I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, it’s just, I don’t ‘understand’ it.)
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First thought: Yes, I think you got used. If he clearly stated he doesn’t like you, but still allows you to suck his dick? That’s a textbook example.
Even if he might have changed his mind about you and he realized what an awesome girl you are, it’s not really a… gentleman thing to do. Plus if you feel used, that’s never a good thing to feel. So even if he didn’t meant it that way, he made it feel that way to YOU! That’s what counts as well.
As for the name and state changing, I hope you don’t have to, since that’s quite a big deal. You might want to avoid these kind of things in the future though.
Good luck.
T.M.W.W.K.
So, some of you may have read my “Something personal” post back in August (link) and… well here’s the follow up.
Since it will probably be quite a long post again, I’ll cut it here and you can read more if you want to. This post is just to… speak my mind. Nothing more. If you want to reply or react to it, that’s fine of course.
I’m actually scared like fuck right now. Can’t focus AT ALL.
Well, you can’t change what you have done in the past. It’s up to her to accept you for it or not. Saying you were joking was a bad idea, because basically you are lying to her, which is never good.
I’m a strong believer that when you are in a relationship you accept both how that person is today and what he/she did in the past. If you can’t, don’t start a relationship together.
My advice is to find a way to make the conversation about virginity and then tell her honestly you aren’t one anymore. Lying is a bigger betrayal than what you did in the past.
Good luck
T.M.W.W.K.
First of all; Thank you for the kind words. I’m glad someone can relate.
It’s always tough to hear something like that, and I hope one day your dad will see that if you meet the right guy, he has nothing to worry about. And even though you might feel lonely, or the only one with a certain problem sometimes, you never are. Somewhere there is someone with the same problem as you. And all you can do is support each other. You just did with your kind words.
I wish you nothing but the best, love and joy in your further life. May you live a blessed life.
T.M.W.W.K.
I’m sorry to hear that the distance was a killer for your relationship. But first of all, no, it’s not stupid to hope he still has feelings for you. Hope is a good thing, but at one point you DO have to stop doing it.
As for putting effort to communicate with him… It’s a tough one. Some will say; if he doesn’t put in effert why should you? But if everybody will think that way, nobody would ever talk. Someone should make the first step. Maybe he’s dying to talk to you but is scared or something.
If I were you I’d try to talk to him (if you’re ready and want to ofcourse, don’t do it if you think it is just the right thing to do). Just start off with an; “Hey, long time no spoken, how are you these days? What you been up to?” But do let him know that you’re not crawling back to him and that he can pull that stuff of again.
If after a while he’s still not putting effort into talking to you, or you have the feeling the conversation is dying when you don’t say anything, I’m afraid you’ll have to let it go.
Good luck.
T.M.W.W.K.
It would be a bit strange to offer someone a mint in the middle of the night during ‘le cuddle time’ yes.
Personally I wouldn’t really mind if someone says my breath is a bit iffy. At least they’re fair. Same goes for other body odors, it can be a tricky subject. How I would solve it is in a playfull way. If that fails, be fair to them.
What you could try is before you fall asleep, put a mint into your mouth and while kissing him, slip it into his mouth.
If you guys really only cuddle (so no kissy time) I’d advice to offer and go brush your teeth together. If that fails too, it’s best to just say it or turn the other way around.
Other ways to mask the smell might be a sweet drink like Coke or Mango juice.
Not much of a help here I’m afraid, sorry. Good luck.
T.M.W.W.K.
I really can’t figure out WHY anyone (guy or not) would say one thing, but wants the exact opposite. But that’s how people seem to work. It all depends on HOW it is said. If he looks/sounds irritated he’s probably sincere. But if he says it in a laughing or playfull way it’s probably an invitation for you to either keep doing what you’re doing or go further.
How it physically works I’m not 100% sure. From own experience, I don’t get really breathless when I get an erection. It’s more what is done with it that can make me breathless.
Me personal, I have somewhat a weakness for ‘exotic’ girls, and especially Asian. My girlfriend is Asian (Pakistani).
My first thought, he got another date. Nothing against you, but some people like the ‘spread your chances’ game. It’s where they’re nice/going after more than 1 person and see who bites first.
But it could aslo be that what you gave as an answer, didn’t please him. If you said, maybe he might have moved on. If you said yes and all that still had to be agreed upon was time and place, try confronting him with it, where he can’t ignore you. So not by text or phonecall but eye to eye. By confronting I’m not saying you have to put him on the spot but ask him out or if he already decided where you two are going, make it playful.
If he still doesn’t respond to it, I’m afraid you have to forget about the promised date.
Good luck.
T.M.W.W.K.
